ChatGPT Will Say "Yes" to Your Toxic Ex—And That’s a Problem

Let’s Talk About Your Favorite New Therapist—ChatGPT

You know what’s worse than bad advice?
Perfectly polite advice that never challenges you.

ChatGPT is the dream best friend for your 2 AM heartbreak spiral.
It listens. It validates. It never tells you to block your ex.

But here’s the question I can’t stop asking:
If AI always agrees with you… is it helping you grow? Or just cosigning your avoidance?

The Rise of the AI Therapist (AKA: Your Emotional Echo Chamber)

According to Vice, people are turning to ChatGPT for emotional support because it’s nonjudgmental, instant, and available 24/7.
One user even said, “It gave me the emotional validation I wasn’t getting from my friends.”

And I get it.

In a world where real relationships can feel exhausting, ChatGPT is a fantasy partner: always present, never reactive, endlessly supportive.

But that’s also the problem.

As Business Insider warns, AI “therapy” might feel emotionally safe, but it lacks the depth and boundaries that real healing requires. It can’t track your patterns. It won’t lovingly interrupt your delusion. And it definitely won’t say, “Sweetheart, this isn’t love. It’s trauma reenactment.”

3 Reasons ChatGPT Can’t Fix Your Love Life

1. It’s a People Pleaser (Just Like You Were Taught to Be)

ChatGPT is literally programmed to please. It mirrors your tone, softens hard truths, and avoids confrontation.

So when you ask, “Should I text him even though he ghosted me?” it might respond with, “If you feel like reaching out, go for it!”
Sound familiar?

Real love requires honesty. And so does growth.

2. It Doesn’t Know You’re Repeating Patterns

AI doesn’t know you’ve had this exact same fight with the exact same kind of partner five times already.
It doesn’t track history. It tracks input.

Which means it can’t call out your toxic relationship loop—or help you break it.

If you want a deeper dive into how love and technology intersect, check out my blog on AI and Love for Single People. Spoiler: it’s not about turning your chatbot into your soulmate.

3. It Doesn’t Let You Fail—and That’s Where Growth Lives

In my book on SignShine’s Etel Leit Books page, I write about how making mistakes is how kids (and adults) truly learn. Love is no different.

If you never hear “no”
If no one challenges you
If your therapist tells you you're always right
…are you really growing?

But Wait—Is Using AI for Support All Bad?

Absolutely not.

AI can be helpful for:

• Practicing how to communicate in relationships

• Reflecting back emotional language

• Gathering tools for managing tough feelings

But AI is just that—a tool. It’s not a substitute for real accountability, real connection, or real intimacy.

Real love is messy, uncomfortable, and inconvenient. But it’s also deeply rewarding—especially when we stop chasing perfection and start choosing presence.

Tools to Attract Love (That Doesn’t Just Agree With You)

If you’ve fallen into the ChatGPT love spiral, here’s how to return to your truth:

• Ask yourself, “What would a therapist say that I don’t want to hear?”

• Name your pattern. Write down how your last three relationships ended. See the theme?

• Talk to a human. Whether it’s a coach, friend, or therapist, find someone who will challenge you with love.

• Book a Relationship Diagnostic Session to find out where you’re stuck—and how to start changing.

Because you don’t just want to be understood.
You want to be transformed. 

Final Thoughts

ChatGPT might tell you what you want to hear.
But love—the real kind—will tell you what you need to grow.

So the next time you feel the urge to ask your AI if your situationship is actually a soul connection, try asking yourself instead:

💬 “What am I avoiding by outsourcing my truth to a chatbot?”

Because healing doesn’t happen when everything agrees with you.
It happens when you learn to challenge yourself—with love.